I had a largely domestic day with hubby, did little else beyond sit around and read, surf the internet, and finally go food shopping. Now I’m baking bread. I am cheating by using frozen dough, but I’ve added my own ingredients, including sun-dried tomatoes, onions and cheese. It’ll either be incredibly yummy or a large lump of hard dough we’ll have to force down our gullets. Please pray it’s the former. After dinner, I’m taking a long bath and then retiring early.
Speaking of domestic, I wanted to say that it continues to be a favorite of mine to play with a man who’s reenacting something from his youth — a fantasy about a neighbor that he once had a crush on, or the mom that he never had. A lot of the men who express this want (and need) the severe punishment that these idealized women dole out in their fantasies. Usually the inspiration for the fantasy, the actual woman, never spanked them. Sometimes they tell me they witnessed or overheard their childhood friend getting spanked, or saw their sister get it, or were themselves threatened without a follow-through. And it seems to stay with them their whole lives; thinking about it turns them on.
I’ve had requests to wear various outfits to match some of these dream ladies. One recent client of mine, M., asked that I wear a white men’s button-down shirt, my own panties, and nothing else. (Talk about comfortable!) Another gentleman requested I wear a bathing suit, specifically a one-piece. I didn’t own a one-piece at the time so as I went shopping I kept in mind that his fantasy neighbor was probably someone he knew circa 1960s or 1970s — maybe even earlier. I found a one-piece that seemed very conservative (AKA boring), but was perfect for the fantasy look we were going for.
One theme that runs through all of these scenes is that the women is strict but nice. She delivers a very hard punishment, then she forgives the “boy,” then she holds him. She makes him feel brave for taking his punishment and makes sure he knows that she still cares for him.
I haven’t quite figured out these two roles and how they go together. I do know that I like to do both — I like to be very firm and strict with the boys. Not that many will cry, but I don’t mind when they do. I like to dish out the pain — I know how much they need it, and I simply ENJOY it, watching their reactions. And, just as much, I like the aftercare. I don’t know, it doesn’t make any sense, but I feel close to someone after I punish him. I want to nurture him at that point.