… than pissed on, as they say. In my little world, I get off on punishment play, not as a raging, screaming domme but more as a ticked-off mom (or babysitter, teacher of boss) who’s had enough. I just feel that a scene is more “real” if there’s some role-played anger. (I never really feel angry — if a sub really made me angry I think I would end the scene). When I bottom I like to feel a little fear, and a top’s “anger” increases my fear (and my excitement). I know that many of the guys I top like to feel that, too, that bit of fear.
Some subs go into quiet mode pretty quickly during a scene. Whether it’s sub space or just them trying to be tough, I’m not sure (maybe I should ask, LOL). But I enjoy it when there’s some noise, some struggle, some anxious banter about how good they are going to be.
I also like when there’s brattiness — “That doesn’t hurt!” and that sort of nonsense. If that doesn’t give me license to up the ante, I don’t know what does. And if smacking their bottoms doesn’t work, there’s always the “sweet spot” and then the thighs… Angry mom doesn’t like being talked to that way, you know.
I know this doesn’t work for everyone, and there are times when I have to change my style. One sub, for instance, likes to play very, very hard, but doesn’t like “lecturing.” Rather, he simply wants me to tell him what position I want him in for each phase of his punishment, and then for me to deliver that punishment matter-of-factly. It’s interesting, and I like playing the disciplinarian who’s “just doing her job.”
Other times, I just top someone because he needs the release, he needs to release control to someone else, and he needs the pain. That makes me feel strong; it can be a rush. But I still think the role-play pissed-off mom is a lot of fun … afterward there’s usually forgiveness and cuddling, and I’m my sweet ol’ self again…