I think I left the impression, when I wrote about FetFest a few days ago, that I didn’t connect with others much. I wanted to revise that a bit. There were more connections happening than I’d suggested, but most of them were of the “getting to know people a little better” nature.
I got to top SubMale9992003 (Bruce), whom I’ve known for years but never played with. I used his floggers, canes and other toys, which simplified things for me. I know his canes are the ones sold and used by Mistress Nona (Mistress Mine on FetLife, proprietor of the Iron Bell Academy). They’re good quality canes, and Bruce can take a pretty good thrashing, so we had fun. He’s expressed to me on several occasions that he can take it hard if the top builds up as she plays. So I tried to do that with him. I started light and sensual, then spanked him, then flogged him–going from soft to hard floggers–and finally I caned him.
He had cane lines on his butt already, so I assumed he’d played earlier in the weekend. But Bruce said they were lingering marks from a session with Mistress Nona a week or so prior. I was his first top of the weekend, and I felt good that we got to play. I really liked watching the series of parallel lines forming on his butt as I went along, and the low sounds he was making in response to the cane.
Bruce is smart and a really nice guy–an ex-Marine. My Dom and I shared most of our meals with him during FetFest. We see him often at Paddles and at parties in Long Island.
Over the weekend, I also had occasion to talk with and attend classes run by Jim Deuder, International Mr. Leather Bootblack 2011. I’ve known Jim casually for many years, he was friends with Master Blair when she used to live in the NY area. I knew her as Mistress Blair back then, and she gave me one of the hardest scenes I’ve taken to this day. Here is a pic from that day.
I think I feel a bit shy around “Leather People.” I never know if I fit in, if I am accepted as one of them — which may sound crazy, since I do plenty of fetish activities and I have a Dom. Yet, I’m not in any ritualized family structure and my public group activity is fun, party play. My “Leather Family” members are my Long Island friends and my spanking friends. Jim is queer, and I don’t always know if I’ll be accepted by those of that orientation.
But, Jim was nice–he always is. I don’t know the significance of Mr. International Bootblack, but he likes to polish boots and it’s got meaning to those whose boots are symbolic of their lifestyle. I’ve had my boots blacked–we did it at TES Fest–it feels good and you get shiny, new-looking boots as a result. At many fetish events, a boot-blacking station is set up to raise money for charity.
Some of the FetFest connections remain anonymous. I did find a FetLife profile for the hot young thing I got to strap on Monday morning, but I’m hovering in the background for now. I am old enough to be her mom!
Overall I did have fun, even if the connections were brief. I can’t say anyone I met will go on to be my “next best BDSM friend” but that’s fine. I feel a part of this community and that’s good enough.