I had a great time at Shadow Lane. What can I say? I wrote on Fetlife that Shadow Lane was an “island of blissfulness,” and it’s true. I am slowly coming back into reality. Over the weekend, I think, I explored a myriad of sensations from pain to fear to wielding power to receiving stimulation. I’m not talking, necessarily, about sexual stimulation, although this is without a doubt a sexually charged weekend. I’m talking about touch, about emotional connection, about even simple basic physical reactions to the cool breeze after stepping out of the pool, to the warm sun on my face as the jet sprays from the hottub pulsed over my sore shoulder muscles on Sunday morning, to the touch of a friend massaging my head, shoulders and aching feet. My heels were sexy but not great for walking around in, and I did a lot of walking around in them.

I was flattered by those who approached me for private sessions. Each of these was very special and enjoyable. I always like seeing the different ways each bottom reacts, the range from stoicism to tears. I also liked using the cane on two very special partners.

I’m glad we had a good turn-out for the F/m party on Saturday morning. I was a little nervous right at the beginning when we had about 15 men and only two women (thank god Miss Chris showed up early, and thank god, not too long after that, more female tops arrived.) I know the spankings during that party were not all that long, but I hope people made connections and were able to continue the play later in the weekend.

Thanks also to those who bought my book, “It’s SUPPOSED to Hurt!” I only had two left at the end to carry home, which felt great. I hope everyone likes the short stories and essays, and gets something out of it. With the proceeds I was able to purchase a beautiful extra-long “frat” paddle from Kitty’s Exotic Paddles. (Calling it a frat paddle does not do it justice. It is long and scary but made of bocote wood, a richly grained hardwood that I hope will serve me for years to come.) Any bad boy wishing to feel this paddle should contact me. Just so you know, it was used on yours truly and I will know EXACTLY how it feels when I dish it out!

And now, off to work. Reality. Ugh.

Plans were made to connect with friends at the Mexican restaurant in the hotel. There were two large tables of “us” — not as crazy as in years past, but a nice-sized group and we got to catch up with people we hadn’t seen in a while.

I’d arranged with a friend to top him but he wanted a caning and I did not pack my canes. Earlier, Tony Elka, owner of Shadow Lane, said he could get one for me. I was upstairs trying to reach Tony when Keith Jones (my favorite SL video top) walked out of the elevator carrying a cardboard tube. “This is for you,” he said, and handed me the cane. I thought it was funny; maybe you had to be there.

The scene with my friend was pretty intense, I thought. He hadn’t played since February and really needed it, but I also got the impression that he didn’t need “angry dom” but rather “nurturing but strict top.” He got spanked, paddled and then caned pretty hard. It was nice holding him afterward and hearing the blissful, sort-of stoned sound in his voice. A good spanking will get you feeling that way.

Shortly after that, I did a live webcam interview with my friend Richard Windsor (www.richardwindsor.com), which ended with my spanking, paddling and caning my friend JP on camera. I will have a link to this, when it’s done, on spankingtube.com.

All this biz out of the way, I headed down to a suite party and caught up with the rest of my SL friends who had gotten in on Thursday or earlier. Received a delicious “warm-up” spanking from Stephen West (an SL video top that I’d met here a few years ago) and then topped a few more people before retreating to the relative peace and quiet of a frend’s room and only a handful of people.

It was pretty late, going by East Coast time, when we got to bed. Thank god for power naps! This afternoon I have two sessions set up and then I’ll be selling my book (and catching up with more people) at the Vendor’s Fair.

Now I am wondering if I’ll be able to get my toes done… more to come later …

It’ll be quite a busy weekend, however. I’m going to be doing an interview and filming with Richard Windsor on Thursday evening, I’ll be selling my book at the Vendor’s Fair on Friday, and I’ll be hosting the Female tops/male bottoms party on Saturday morning. Naturally I’ll be spanking deserving men and women throughout the weekend as well. I have what should be a pretty intense scene lined up with a friend on Thursday evening — he’s been craving a hard punishment and I intend to give it to him. .

I switch, as you know, and I’ve got several M/f scenes lined up, too. I’ll be exploring an interrogation scene with one friend, and then a sort of “take-down” scene with a top who is new to me but well-known and trusted in the community. I’m very excited about both of those opportunities. A friend who happens to be a popular SL video actor (that’s as close to name-dropping as I’ll come right now) has offered to “warm me up” on Thursday night. Knowing him it will be a little more than a warm-up, but that’s OK.

For anyone who’s attending the party and is looking for something “special,” let me know over the next week, or at the party itself, and we can make arrangements. Email me at mscassandrapark@gmail.com; you can call if you like but email first is best as I’m always running around.

Here are a few specials I’m offering at Shadow Lane:
A. For those purchasing my book, 1) you may get or give a mini-spanking at the booth; 10 swats/strokes. Your choice of implements if you’re receiving; if you’re giving I must limit myself to over panties only, no wood or severe implements — I have to pace myself. 2) Book purchasers also get a $50 discount on a one-hour session during the party, or $25 off a half-hour session.

B. 20-minute specials: 1) Caning with TLC (for first-timers); 2) Spanked and put to bed special; 3) La-La-Land special (that nice, gentle or not-so-gentle flogging you’ve been craving; 4) Negotiate your own special. All $75.

More details about Shadow Lane to come over next few days.

I know what I really need to do is to find one of my tried and true stalwarts and just use him (or her) to relieve this stress. What’s good is that usually the same happens for the sub; he’s relieving some stress as well.

I’ll be at Paddles on Saturday night and maybe this can happen. My husband, Rad, is giving a talk on “Men in the Spanking Scene.” It should be a very interesting talk for men AND women; please come join us. RSVP at http://fetlife.com/events/24786

This was what she wrote just a few weeks ago: “I just wanted to let you know that (now that I’m awake and looked) I am having trouble sitting (and everyone has noticed) and my WHOLE ass is one big bruise!!!! You should be very proud of yourself – making that much color with just your hand!!!–R”

She is an incorrigible speeder, often exhibits road rage, and thinks she is never in the wrong. Yet she’d confessed to her third ticket within TWO months for running a red light.

To make matters worse, TWO DAYS AGO I got this new email: “…you’re probably going to kill me – I swear I’m innocent – I got 2 tickets for yellows. I swear both of those lights were FULL YELLOW and did not turn red – but they say they did. Sorry!”

My response: “I’m going to pull your pants down and spank your bottom until you are kicking and yelling for mercy. And then you are going to get the paddle.”

Her: “Oh shit – I knew I would be dead!!”

I spank her because she asked me to. She needs it no matter what she’s actually done. She is an adult, and makes their own decisions about how she behaves and the consequences of those actions. I can spank someone’s behind all night, but he or she still has to have enough self-motivation to stick with a plan.

So the bad girl obviously wants the paddling. I think tonight she may be getting it.