Cassandra Park

A friend told me someone else we know in the scene had observed me topping someone and thought that I looked angry. I was a little surprised at this — because usually when I top in public I’m just topping — I’m not doing a role play (ie, angry mom or teacher).

But maybe my “serious face” just looks angry sometimes. I do tend to get serious. I want to focus on my bottom in what are often noisy, distracting circumstances. I want to pay attention to my aim, his reactions, his comfort — beyond the pain of the spanking or strapping or whatever it is I’m doing to him, I want him to be in a comfortable position, one that he can stay in for as long as I need him to.

I want what I’m doing to be intense. I want it to be a little scary, and more than a little painful–sepending on the partner, of course, but most people I top seem to like that. I guess I top the way I like to bottom. It may get sexual in a peripheral way, but it’s going to be more about emotional than erotic release.

I’m never angry at my bottom (why would I top someone I was angry at?–this is play, not abuse or retribution). But sometimes the play is “fast & furious,” and the “furious,” I suppose, can be a bit of an unplanned mini role play.

I don’t know; when I bottom & it’s a hard scene, it’s often incongruous to have my top smiling at me & being nice. When someone lays a cane stroke into me that makes me scream, is that “nice.” Oh, yes, it may be exactly what I need. But I’m not thinking, “thank you for giving me what I need.” I’m thinking “son of a bitch!”

Do I want my bottoms thinking, “Bitch!”? Yeah, maybe. I’m not, really … well, not most of the time. I have to call up my inner mean girl. And I guess sometimes she looks pissed…

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Excerpt from Ms. Cassandra’s article, “Giving it to Him”: “I was sitting in a straight-backed chair that I’d moved into the middle of the room. “You’re getting a bare-bottom spanking,” I told him, looking right at him. He couldn’t meet my gaze. “Put your hands on your head.” Pulling him closer to me, I unbuckled his belt and drew it completely out of its loops. “You’re going to feel this belt in a few minutes, too, young man.” 
I undid his pants, lowered them, and then yanked his shorts down. He was getting no warm-up today. He was exposed and vulnerable. It was about to happen.  “Get over my lap, right now!” I ordered him. “You’re getting punished …”

In other exciting news, Wes, the facilitator of the TES Special Interest Group (SIG) on Spanking has asked me to be the new co-coordinator. As you know I spoke on Pain Processing for Spankos a week or so back at this meeting.

The next Spanking SIG meeting will be Wednesday, March 28, with the theme “Why Spanking?” This is going to be a panel of people who have spanking as their primary kink. They’ll be talking about what they like about spanking, how they developed their kink, some sublime moments, and perhaps some things they don’t like. There are still a couple of slots open and if you feel you would like to be part of this, drop me an email at mscassandrapark@gmail.com.

The next meeting after that won’t be until May 2. I’m hoping to make that one more of a demo, not just a talk. I have some ideas floating around in my little head (as always) but I’m open to all suggestions. Again, respond to me on my blog, on FetLife or via email.