Ms. Cassandra Park

Posted By Cassandra Park on July 17, 2010

What’s up with the Strange Guy who pops up in an IM window, unsolicited, and wants to chat? I’ve been seeing a lot of these lately. Does he have a profile? No. Does he start off by saying, “Hi, I saw your profile in such-and-such Yahoo group; I saw you liked ____ and I’m into that, too — do you have time to talk”? No. Does he introduce himself and say ANYTHING about himself? No.

When I begin to ask questions about where he found my name, or what he’s into, I’ve opened the door to his sticking around and prolonging my suffering. For some odd reason, these guys can never seem to remember WHICH Yahoo group they found me in. (I should mention that I hardly ever use Yahoo groups anymore; I’m using FetLife much more, and just started using Spanko.net as well).

I have in the past tended to give unknown IM’rs a little time, not abandoning the exchange from the get-go. You never know, SOMETIMES conversations start off on the wrong foot and redeem themselves. More likely, when I do try to continue the conversation it’s like pulling teeth to find out what he likes. One guy said, “I can’t talk about this too much online.” (WHAT? — I guess he meant posting about his kink on his Yahoo profile, but you can create separate profiles.)

I’ve gotten to the point where I hardly ever turn on my IM function anymore when I sign in. I want to talk to friends and people I’m getting to know first (through my website; some of the boards I’m on).

However, I also don’t mind a talk with a stranger if he can express himself, because sometimes he is someone who legitimately is interested in seeing me for a consultation, OR he simply interesting. Those people may be as tired of IMing as I am, so I likely won’t be having those conversations.

The time wasters? I have yet to figure out what they are getting out of it or why they do it.

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Posted By Cassandra Park on July 14, 2010

Prior to Paddles OTK night, one of my bad boys had emailed me and told me how he’d misbehaved. He told me that he needed a punishment — a good spanking + more. I knew he was fantasizing about it and craving it. I hope it was a little harder than what he had imagined.

Oh, he was “warmed up,” of course, but what is a warm-up actually? A pretty painful spanking, when it comes down to it. By the time I had his shorts down he was already sobbing that he was sorry for his behavior.

He seems to say that a lot. I told him I was serious and spanked him a little more. I was going to paddle him this time, to make sure the lesson sunk in.

I made him stand with his pants and shorts still down and face the wall. I lectured him. “You’ve earned this punishment, haven’t you?!”

“Yes, ma’am,” he responded, his quivering. Not everyone responds like this. Some see the hard punishment as a challenge to them, something they must endure. So they are quiet and stoic.

Others, like this bad boy, fantasize about the punishment before we get together, but once that paddle or cane connects with their behind it’s suffering. To make him even more nervous, while he was standing against the wall I ran some ice over his reddened cheeks and spanked his wet tush as hard as I could. The extra pain, I hoped, would send a little more dread into him about the paddling to come.

I had an oval paddle made by WhackMePaddles and a rectangular one from Kitty’s Exotic Paddles, and I started with the oval. He was over the bench, being VERY obedient at this point. I delivered the first solid smack to his left cheek– ooh, and a very satisfying sound it made, too. He jumped a bit, but was a good boy and stayed down.

He knows that I use my bath brush on bottoms who are disobedient during a scene. So, yes, he stayed down.

I waited a few seconds. I planned to savor this, make it last. Then, I smacked his right cheek. I decided after about 4 that I should give him 20 with that paddle and then 20 with the other.

My poor boy. He didn’t like that paddle. He said many more times how sorry he was. Oh, I was nasty to him. I teased him by putting my left foot up on the bench next to him, inched my skirt up and nearly, but did not, flash him. He hadn’t earned that. As soon as he noticed the potential view, he seemed to perk up — so the paddle came down again.

Oh, a fun scene. Many bad boys as usual were at the club and I did punish a few, but of course could not get to all. For those who asked, I will be at the club this Saturday at my reading. Following that, I won’t be back until OTK in August.

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Posted By Cassandra Park on July 10, 2010

On Saturday, July 17, please come out to Paddles NYC. The TES Spanking Group has invited me to read from my book, and I’ve asked two other female writers in our community to join me.

This’ll be a night of hot spanking fiction, as well as a discussion about writing and why we like to read erotic fiction.Those of us who have books will be signing and selling them as well.

My panelists are the erotic writers DL King and Courtney, both of whom are real players in the NY scene.

I think this will be a very different type of evening at Paddles and I’m hoping to get a nice crowd. The meeting starts at 8 p.m. and will be followed with an evening of play, which I’m planning to hang around for.

Cross-posted at www.sandysroom.wordpress.com

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Posted By Cassandra Park on July 7, 2010

On my way to deal with a bad boy (this’ll give me a little fix till Saturday). He’s requested me to kick it up a notch. All right… Will this request be regretted in the heat of the mokment? Oh, I don’t doubt it (shrugs).

Would the person from Chicago who called me recently please email me privately (mscassandrapark@gmail.com) or call back and speak loudly and clearly when you leave your number. Tried a few times, but still couldn’t understand it. Thanks!

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Posted By Cassandra Park on July 6, 2010

I can’t wait for Saturday night’s OTK night at Paddles. I really hope there one or two subs who like a hard spanking, because I’m in the mood for it. I think I’m ready for a good role play, a good pissed-off teacher or mom scenario. I’ll have my complete toy bag ready for action, so look out.

Write me and tell me why you need this kind of play, or creatively convince me to try another scenario. I’ll give the author of the best note a free mini-session at Paddles (half-hour). It can be claimed at any time, not only this Saturday. I hope to get some nice comments to publish here.

Don’t forget to stop by the Moonstruck Diner, 23rd Street and 9th Avenue, at 5:30 p.m. on Saturday. We eat and socialize until about 6:50, then head over to Paddles where the playing begins.

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Posted By Cassandra Park on July 5, 2010

I’m back from my week-long business trip and ready to play! Let me know. I’m off work on Tuesday and Wednesday, so this is one of those rare opportunities for those of you who can’t play in the evenings. Just let me know as soon as you can.

Re: Boston. A while back, a few people had asked me when I was going to be up there, and at the time I couldn’t say when. Even though it’s not far, it’s not a hop, skip and a jump either, and it’s expensive to stay. But I’ve now made plans to travel there the weekend of July 23-25 to visit a friend. I will have time available for a consultation or two on late Sunday afternoon to early evening. Let’s talk, those of you who need spankings in Boston.

In the meantime, Paddles OTK night approaches. Munch starts at 5:30 this Saturday (July 10) at the Moonstruck Diner — come out and join us. The more men who attend the munch, the bigger the discount they get into Paddles. But please, ladies, don’t hesitate to come out as well. You always get a discount for attending the munch. Everyone is super friendly and you just might mean the spanko of your dreams. My husband Rad and I will be holding court as usual.

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Posted By Cassandra Park on June 13, 2010

Almost forgot that last night a sub asked me if he could switch sides, to even out his spanking. I was all for it, but warned him, “I AM right-handed and I can’t guarantee how well this will work.”

It ended up working quite nicely, after I’d gotten used to the angles and got a rhythm going. I still used my right hand from time to time, too. I think that I might start incorporating this every now and then in a scene, just for variety (and to alleviate future right-hand repetitive motion injuries). Probably won’t work too well with harder scenes, as I really need to be accurate. But for OTK, it should be fine.

(Yes, I COULD practice and get better accuracy with my left hand. I could. Yeah, I could do a lot of things!)

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