Don’t quite understand why the post I wrote a day or two ago (about my Southeastern Woodshed shoot), ended up BELOW the two older posts I wrote. It was supposed to be on the top!

Anyhow, I’ll figure that out later (or not). I’m trying to relax and regroup this week before my next project, this coming Saturday’s shoot with Punished Brats. Pixie is calling on me to top in several different scenarios. It should be lots of fun, but i can imagine it will be hard work, as well. This’ll be my real test; can I maintain my authority throughout?

As mentioned in the news notes on the right, I am hoping to dish out some private discipline in Philly this weekend as well. If you’re in need, please let me know and reserve a spot as soon as you can.

I may also make an appearance at The Spankuary, a new club opening this Friday in Philadelphia. See the RSVP and event info on Fetlife.

I’ll stay in Philadelphia till Sunday night if there’s interest; otherwise, I’m driving back to NY and going to Impact on Sunday night. Maybe I’ll see some of you there.

Here are links to some upcoming events I’m either definitely attending or THINKING of attending. Consider joining in the fun. If we haven’t met, introduce yourself!

Friday: Predicament Bondage demo at Paddles:

Saturday: OTK munch and party (RSVP, please!)

Feb. 14: Impact: Looking for intelligent, attractive submissive to accompany me

Feb. 18: Friends Tasha and Yoni’s production of “The Flaming of the Shrew” at CineKink

Feb. 21: Hollywood Spanking Group party (Not going this time; wish I were!)

March 5: Le Trample Foot Fetish party, NYC. I’m seeking an intelligent, attractive sub — who knows how to give a proper foot rub — to accompany me.

If you’re interested in attending any of the events above where I’m seeking a partner, please write me at mscassandrapark@gmail.com. Send a pic. We could have a lot of fun!! (Oh, yes — it helps if you can take a decent amount of pain & punishment)

I had a largely domestic day with hubby, did little else beyond sit around and read, surf the internet, and finally go food shopping. Now I’m baking bread. I am cheating by using frozen dough, but I’ve added my own ingredients, including sun-dried tomatoes, onions and cheese. It’ll either be incredibly yummy or a large lump of hard dough we’ll have to force down our gullets. Please pray it’s the former. After dinner, I’m taking a long bath and then retiring early.

Speaking of domestic, I wanted to say that it continues to be a favorite of mine to play with a man who’s reenacting something from his youth — a fantasy about a neighbor that he once had a crush on, or the mom that he never had. A lot of the men who express this want (and need) the severe punishment that these idealized women dole out in their fantasies. Usually the inspiration for the fantasy, the actual woman, never spanked them. Sometimes they tell me they witnessed or overheard their childhood friend getting spanked, or saw their sister get it, or were themselves threatened without a follow-through. And it seems to stay with them their whole lives; thinking about it turns them on.

I’ve had requests to wear various outfits to match some of these dream ladies. One recent client of mine, M., asked that I wear a white men’s button-down shirt, my own panties, and nothing else. (Talk about comfortable!) Another gentleman requested I wear a bathing suit, specifically a one-piece. I didn’t own a one-piece at the time so as I went shopping I kept in mind that his fantasy neighbor was probably someone he knew circa 1960s or 1970s — maybe even earlier. I found a one-piece that seemed very conservative (AKA boring), but was perfect for the fantasy look we were going for.

One theme that runs through all of these scenes is that the women is strict but nice. She delivers a very hard punishment, then she forgives the “boy,” then she holds him. She makes him feel brave for taking his punishment and makes sure he knows that she still cares for him.

I haven’t quite figured out these two roles and how they go together. I do know that I like to do both — I like to be very firm and strict with the boys. Not that many will cry, but I don’t mind when they do. I like to dish out the pain — I know how much they need it, and I simply ENJOY it, watching their reactions. And, just as much, I like the aftercare. I don’t know, it doesn’t make any sense, but I feel close to someone after I punish him. I want to nurture him at that point.

The first of the three videos I made last week with Ms. Holly is now available at Southeastern Woodshed:
https://www.spankinglibrary.com/store.php?id=62.

I hope you like it! (AKA, please order the download).

Too tired to write much else at the moment. Hope to catch up on Monday.

Greetings from sunny Southern California! I’m having a fabulous time, and already got to discipline one very good/bad boy yesterday.

“J.” said he needed a caning and was kind enough to bring the implements of his doom to me, allowing me to avoid the hassles of flying with canes. (Short canes that fit into your suitcase just aren’t enough, wouldn’t you agree?)

The poor lad also brought an array of paddles. I only used one or two, along with one or two of my toys, saving the canes for the main event. However, he did have to suffer a bit under a brisk paddling before we returned to the canes.

Sometimes you just KNOW you have to go a little further than usual. This was one of those occasions and the caning was, I thought, severe. J. promises to send pics later of my ministrations. I hope he can still feel and see the results today, and that I did a thorough enough job … yes, J.?

Yesterday, thanks to another “J.” in NYC, I was able to visit the Magic Castle in L.A. I had not heard of this place and it was so much fun. All kinds of magic shows all over the place, plus dinner if you want and drinks and/or dessert. In addition to the official ’shows,’ there are wandering magicians performing. I’m not hard to impress, but some of these guys went above and beyond impressing me.

I was with the Dom I will be playing with tonight, and his lovely wife who’s also a Dom. It was a great opportunity to get to know them a little better.

This afternoon, I’ll be doing pedicure/manicure and maybe a haircut. Also meeting a Shadow Lane friend for lunch.

I’ll still have some time this afternoon and evening for a last-minute discipline scene, but you’ll need to contact me soon. Text and or phone messages okay this afternoon, or you can email as usual. If you need to reach me today, please do not contact me via comments here, as it will take too long to see them and respond (thanks)

A memory from my trip to Burbank last Saturday (it COULDN’T have been just one week ago, could it?). The bad boy in question, J., really did need it that hard — sometimes it’s the only thing that will get through. He took it well, allowed me to snap some pics afterward and here are the results. Oh, yes, I loved thrashing this beautiful behind. mmm. Hope to see you again soon, J.

I’d like to get back to California again soon. I don’t know if I can do it without a sponsor or some consulting appointments lined up. I’m also wanting to go to Vegas, and perhaps the Texas All-State Party in March. If anyone wishes to sponsor me for future travel (in exchange for play, of course) please let me know. Major cities preferred. This includes switch play as well, remember. Ask anyone — I can take it as hard as I give it out, most of the time.

Last night I had the pleasure of spanking another wonderful bottom, M., who told me of his dirty little fantasies involving sneaking into a neighbor’s panty drawer when he was a youth — his friend’s mother. The mother in question liked to walk around and tease him when he visited, wearing just panties and one of her husband’s white button-down dress shirts. So I re-enacted that scenario and wore exactly that, while I chastised him for the audacity of entering not only my room but my panty stash. Oh, at one point I made him put on my panties. I had strongly suspected he was doing more than just LOOK through the drawers, and I was right — he had tried on my panties and then PUT THEM BACK in my drawer. Disgusting, wouldn’t you say?

But he paid for it, got a good walloping on the bare bottom, and a strapping, and all is now forgiven. I did tell him if he wanted to look through my panty drawer in the future, he could, but would have a price to pay. (evil laugh).

On a side note, I gotta say, it’s SO simple and comfortable to wear panties and a white men’s shirt — vs. garters, heels, something silky/leathery/lacy, etc. Not that I don’t like garters, lace and silk!! Keep the domestic fantasies coming!

SSNY party tonight. I’m filming with Ms. Holly on Tuesday, so at tonight’s party I will mostly be topping, to avoid any marks.

For my recent contest, I asked you all what you hoped to change in the new year. I received several responses from those who want to lose weight and work out more. I can identify; this is always on my mind especially this holiday season, when I overindulged a few times(!)

But I have decided that the most creative answer was Steven’s:
“I daydream childishly when things bore me, so I procrastinate about tasks and goals I don’t like. Worst of all, I knowingly give myself flimsy excuses. I need your help because I deserve a good, strict disciplinary spanking to clear my head and encourage me to do as I should.”

I can identify completely! I am at one of those offices that are understaffed due to layoffs, so there’s been more and more things added to my plate that I resent doing (not to mention that annoying little pay freeze that’s still in place.) So I, too, tend to procrastinate. Oh, I get the job done, but grudgingly at times.

Steven wins an hour session with me, whenever we can arrange it. (Email me, please)

Runner-up; half-hour session winner: I hadn’t planned on naming a “runner-up,” but I also liked Mike’s answer: “When I write an article, I always write more words than what the editor wants. I usually end up writing it two or three times to trim it down to the limit. While I hate counting spanks, perhaps one for every word over the limit will help me get it right the first time.”

Since I’m an editor, and I’m constantly having to deal with long-winded writers, I think I’m going to have to see Mike and have a little discussion about this. (And I’m being completely fair because I’ve also worked as a writer!)

A reminder about the rules of my contests: You must cover the costs of the play space, since I don’t have my own place. If you wish to play at your home, office or hotel, I’ll need scene references to vouch for you. I can also play with you at a scene party or club.

Keep checking the website for where I’ll be next. In January I’ll be at Paddles NYC on Jan. 9, and at the Strictly Spanking NY party on Jan. 23. MAY be at Texas All-State in March, and definitely will be at SSNY’s weekend party in Atlantic City in April.

Look forward to giving the winners their “prizes”!